Expect the universe to give you what you want. How does that idea strike you? Does it seem reasonable? Outrageous? Unrealistic? Possible?

We expect the sun to rise every day. We expect that gravity will work unwaveringly. We expect it to be cold in the winter and hot in the summer. We expect to get paid when we work. We expect the car to start when we turn the key. We expect someone to wave back if we wave at them.

We know how to do it, this expecting stuff.

Look at what it is that you expect to happen. Be aware for a day or two of your expectations. When you go into a store, stop for a moment just inside the door and feel your expecting. You expect there to be some article or service that you are looking for. When you go out to your car, be aware of expectations. You expect to start the car, drive to where you are going, get out, accomplish your task and come home. If you do this often, this pause before activities, you’ll learn what it feels like, that state of expecting.

But how crazy is it to apply this to the larger and murkier realm of creating new things in your life, maybe things you’ve never felt able to have before?

An Example of Expecting

Think of the experience of inviting someone for dinner. You may want to spend time with someone you haven't seen for a while. Sometimes it’s that you found a great new recipe and would like to try it out on somebody. Sometimes it’s just that you are feeling lonely, or too bogged down in work or other matters, and would like some fun and good conversation.

Whatever the case, this develops into the desire to have someone come to your house for dinner. You make the decision to do this. You pick up the phone and call them up and invite them. The plans are made and then your part is to get ready. You buy the food, clean the house, whatever is involved. And at the appointed time, you stand in your kitchen, they knock on the door, and you let them it. It has happened!

You didn’t have to call them up every day and make sure they were still coming. You didn’t have to send reminders. You didn’t have to drive over to their house and get them to make sure they made it. You asked. They came. All you had to do was let them in.

Look at What Happens for Clues

In some areas you just can’t seem to manifest, no matter what; these areas are like the guests that don’t show up. These situations give you information for clarifying your desire. If someone cancels out on you a number of times, you have to really look at the relationship. Is it important to you? Do you know why this happens? Is it many people, in which case the issue lies mostly with you; or is it just this one person? How important are they to you? Is it worth putting up with their unreliability? Are you setting yourself up to feel bad by inviting someone you know will back out?

If the person is really important to you, you can decide to confront them and try to come to an agreement. You might decide to meet after work instead of an invitation to dinner. You might discover they have health or family problems you didn’t know about. Any number of things may come up if you pursue the situation.

On the other hand, you might decide that your desire is to not pursue the relationship; they aren’t worth the aggravation.

In either case, if you look at what is happening, you can clarify your desires and come to some new idea of what you want. And this will improve your situation with that person and with your overall life. But however difficult this type of relationship can be, you don’t give up the expectation that if you invite someone, they will come.

In the same way, when you conceive of a desire, you “call up” the Universe and issue the invitation. This is the reality I’d like to share with the world.

Each of us is unique. And whatever we do, even if it has been done a million times before, is fresh and new for us. Each creation is unique. Each parent is a first parent. Each painting is a first painting. Each dinner invitation is a first invitation. Whatever we desire, we are inviting the universe to experience something that has never happened before. All we have to do is call it up and issue the invitation. If we are clear and unobstructed, it always shows up!

What is the Real Message?

But of course there are issues! In my own case I have an easy time manifesting houses to live in. I’ve built many and moved into old ones and the process is relatively easy. I can say to the Universe, Hmm, time for another house, let’s move! And it shows up with the next place more or less on schedule.

However, there’s the issue of waterfront! That’s my guest that never shows up. Waterfront would be great. Waterfront beckons to me. Waterfront is sort of the ideal dinner guest. So I have to look at this relationship I have with waterfront. What I find are these thoughts: It’s too expensive; it’s too crowded, look at all the other people who live on the water; what about hurricanes?

And deeper yet: Can I have what I really want? Can I have the ideal? Don’t I have to settle for whoever will show up at my table?

And deeper yet: Does it matter? Do I really care about waterfront or not?

None of it has anything to do with the ultimate nature of waterfront, but has everything to do with me and my beliefs in limitation, my conflicts with other aspects of life. I have to decide how important waterfront is to me and if I will let go of the complex of other beliefs that makes this such a reluctant guest at my table.

My limiting beliefs about finances, my inability to get along with close neighbors, my fears of weather disasters and so on are all involved. By looking at this one guest who won’t show up, I can see deeply into my process. And I can clarify not just my desires, but my creative experience at all levels.

Learn By Practicing

Practice expecting. Start small. Learn to feel inside yourself what that state of expectation feels like, and apply it to small things that you desire. This can be as insignificant as needing a pen and finding one on the floor by the phone, or wanting to find a particular book and having someone give it to you as a gift. Expecting is an energetic posture we take, and it indicates our willingness to receive what the universe delivers.

It’s important to suspend judgment. If it seems that the universe always gives you something you don’t want, you may need to look at your thoughts and your process more carefully. Here are some things you can look at to see what’s happening;

1. How did you phrase your desire? If your way of expressing what you want is to say, “I hate this job, get me out of here”, and then you get fired, the universe has answered you most directly and specifically. You can’t complain if this is what happens! You asked, and you received.

   Remember, you create out of focused attention. If you are always thinking of what you dislike and don’t want, you’d better expect to get that, because that’s what’s coming!

2. Have you made a premature judgment about what the universe delivered? Sometimes things happen that at first glance look like the opposite of what we want, but later prove to be the shortest route to our true desire.

   If you have been focusing on a great new job, are very positive and following the visualizations and intuitions, and then you get fired, don’t jump to the conclusion that it’s not working.

   Getting you fired may be the fastest most direct route to connect you with that dream job. Perhaps if the universe had gone the route that you might have picked out, if you were in charge of how it all happened, it would have taken another three years for you to connect with that job.

3. You may have limiting beliefs that are interfering with the process of manifesting what you want. If you think of your communication with the universe as a radio signal, this is easy to understand. If you conceive of a desire to hear some country music, or rock and roll, or classical, you can’t just turn on the radio and say what you want. You have to tune your radio to the right station. If you adjust your receiving frequency to match the transmitting frequency, you get to hear the music you desire.

   But did you ever have a time when two competing stations were coming in at once? This happens most often in the car. As you drive up and down hills or around curves, the station you want fades in and out and you hear some other station, plus a lot of static. This happens when two stations have strong signals and you are near the area where they overlap or meet. This can be compared to beliefs you might have that “interfere” with the signal of your desire.

   If you want that great new job, but have an underlying belief that you never get what you want, that limiting belief can interfere with your manifestation process and create a static-ridden mess of your results.

   Here’s a story on the importance of sending a clear signal: A family was taking their golden retriever to dog training classes. Usually the mother took the dog, but on this day she couldn’t make it and so she sent her teenaged son. The boy was unfamiliar with the training and didn't want to be there, so he was very impatient with the dog.

   As the members of the class were putting the dogs through the exercises, the trainer noticed this dog going through the oddest motions: hunched over, half sitting, half slouching, the dog dragged itself forward. The trainer went over to see what was happening, and heard the boy shouting in a totally disgusted tone of voice: Come on, Sadie, Sit Down!!

   Now “come” “sit” and “down” are three different commands, meaning three different things. The poor dog was intelligent enough and well enough trained to know what they meant, and was attempting to do all three at once!

   How often do we shout out conflicting commands at the universe, and then turn away in disgust, because what we get is an odd and distorted picture which is nothing like what we wanted?

What About Science?

What does science have to say about this idea of expecting energy and matter to conform to our desires and expectations?

In the famous double slit experiment we find that the fundamental elements of matter respond to what we expect. This is the astounding message of that experiment. In the experiment, it is consciousness, the observer, the experimenter’s expectation, that determines what happens. If we are looking for (expecting) particles, we get particles. If we are looking for (expecting) waves, we get waves. The universe works this way! On the most fundamental level, you get what you expect.

So why not expect the best?

What is it that you’re good at? Making pies, doing a great job mowing the lawn, painting pictures, skydiving, playing the guitar…? There’s something that you are so good at that you don’t even think about it anymore. You make the pie, put it in the oven, set the timer and then go do something else while it cooks. You call someone up and invite them to eat it with you before it’s even done – that’s how sure you are it will come out right! Or you pick up that guitar in front of a crowd of people and play a song, without a second thought.

This is expecting, or faith or trust. It’s not a mystical state of elevated consciousness that you don’t have any experience of. It’s right there in your life already. It is a state of such confidence and knowing that you don’t even think about it. You just know that when the timer rings the pie will be done; when you play the notes it will be a song.

You learned that when you made certain motions with the strings, they made a certain sound. That’s what happens, always. If the strings are tuned and you do the right motion, the same sound comes out, every time. You can count on it. It’s a trustworthy event.

The nature of manifesting is like that. We are vibrational beings, with vibrational energy as our operating system. We vibrate just like that guitar string. What we produce isn’t sound, but events and matter. If we “vibrate” in sync with what we want, the universe delivers it.

If we can depersonalize the process, it can be easier to accept. Instead of seeing the things we have in our lives as some kind of reward or punishment given out by an arbitrary force, see it as a matter of your expectation. If you become an energetic match to what you desire, that thing will happen. It can’t not happen. It’s automatic. There’s nobody to convince.

Except yourself.

By Margie Waters

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